3 steps forward 2 back

After complaining of back pain, they did xrays on mom only to find that she has osteoperosis and a cracked vertabrae. So she is back in bed 24/7 and hopped up on pain pills. Refusing to eat and demanding a feeding tube. Which is riduculous because only 72 hours ago she was eating just fine. This angers my father, he feels mom is just being "lazy" and doesn't want to do any work on the eating front. I say it is the pills making her this crazy. Cause she knows it doesn't make sense...but the pills make everything sound good. I am sure someone at the hospital said "if you don't eat you will have to get a feeding tube" and she said good...give me one. But dad won't listen...he thinks she is just being stubborn and saying that if she insists on a feeding tube he is done, he is having nothing to do with her anymore because he can't handle it.

I talked to the head nurse, and she agreed that it seems like a drastic measure seeing as sometime this week mom should have a procedure done that will fix the back and will feel immediate relief. Thus, she should be back to her eating. Now dad thinks that she should still be plowing the 2100 calories a day down that she was doing before. I understand that with pain she might not be that hungry. So in talking with the head nurse/dad/myself, we agreed that we are going to try to get her to drink her ensure drink at each meal. That is 1500 calories a day and more then sufficient. Its also the same thing they would put in a feeding tube. They are also going to tell her she has to do it. Period. Because if you give her an option she won't do it. Which is what happened this weekend. The nurse on duty said she wouldn't force mom to eat so she was lucky to eat 500 calories each day. So now the nurses are under orders that they have to tell her she has to drink her drink period...if she eats on top of that its a bonus...but not drinking the drink isn't an option.

I feel this is a huge setback and am severly anxious about it. Probably mostly by my fathers attitude. I worry about him. I worry about mom. What don't I worry about?